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Dear How to Do It,
I’m a bisexual woman in my late 20s. I’ve dated about the same number of women and men, and there’s one thing I hate doing in bed.
I hate performing oral sex on women (for what it’s worth, I don’t particularly enjoy receiving it either). There’s something about the smell and taste that really, really grosses me out. I don’t think it’s just a one (or two) time thing because I’ve gone down on around 15 women, and it’s gross every time.
I don’t mind performing oral sex on men (I’ve only encountered one gross-smelling dick before), and

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