Miss Manners: I’m unsure if I’m being asked or told to attend Thanksgiving

DEAR MISS MANNERS: If you say, “Would you come for Thanksgiving?,” is that an invitation or a demand?

GENTLE READER: An invitation, if you insert the word “please.” Otherwise, it sounds a bit iffy, as in: “Would you come if I asked you?”

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