Family advice: We're hosting Thanksgiving. One guest will sow chaos. You'll soon understand why I can't disinvite him.

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Dear Care and Feeding,

I am dreading Thanksgiving because my sister and her husband are coming with their toddler, whom they refuse to supervise! Every time they bring him somewhere, the host(s) always end up having to make sure he doesn’t wreck something and/or kill himself while his parents gab away or play on their phones.

My husband and I will be hosting 12 other people besides them, and we have no desire to play babysitters while trying to pull off making/serving two turkeys plus sides. The kicker is that if I tell my sister she can’t come, she’ll stir the pot with our parents, since she’s the precious golden child, or she’ll claim she and my brother-in-law will wat