A Good Mother Can Rewrite the Narrative and Drop the Guilt

In the last installment of this series on guilt , I discussed the false and conditioned belief that we are guilty if someone else is uncomfortable or disappointed. I suggested a reframe, namely, to see guilt as an opportunity to become aware of and challenge the cultural narrative that sits behind your guilt and that your behavior threatens. And to question the conditioning we receive about who and how we should be as good women and good mothers. Furthermore, our agreement to feel guilty reinforces a broken system that promotes destructive and faulty narratives.

What we don't learn is that we can meet our own standards, behave in a way that we respect, and even be proud of our choices and efforts, and, at the same time, someone else can be disappointed in us, and not get what they nee