Most of us don’t set out to make a mess of things.

Life gets full, days get crowded and we tell ourselves we’ll deal with that one small thing tomorrow. If we’re honest, most messes don’t begin with big decisions — they begin with the tiny avoidances we think won’t matter.

But they do. They always do.

And when the mess finally becomes visible, many people interpret it as failure.

Let me offer a different view: Messes aren’t failures – they’re invitations. Messes are signals that we’ve drifted off our path and an opportunity to return to ourselves more fully.

To illustrate this, let me tell you about someone I’ll call Alex — a person you may recognize in yourself, your partner or someone you love.

Alex is responsible, competent, and caring — someone who juggles work, family and commun

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