Some time ago, a client came to me facing what seemed like a thousand decisions: where to live, which job to take, whom to love. As we worked together, those many paths narrowed to one persistent question: Am I loving the right person? Or, more precisely: Do I want to love this man, even if facts suggest I take other routes?

Before our next session, she sent me a message:

"I’m starting to realize that I rarely take my long-term goals and overall vision of life into account when I make decisions. I don’t know why I do this, but I’m afraid of making the wrong choices in the long run because of it. How do you balance the 'here and now' with long-term goals?"

I thought this was an excellent question. It’s a question we all face, whether in relationships, careers, or the quiet pivot poi

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