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Dear Care and Feeding,

My 3-year-old son is going through a phase where all he wants to eat is peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. I’m willing to indulge him until it passes, but my husband is becoming impatient and wants to give him the choice of either eating what’s in front of him at mealtimes or going without. His rationale is “he’ll eat when he gets hungry.” Who’s right?

—Sandwich Showdown

Dear Showdown,

I’m with you. It’s a phase; it’ll pass. What’s the hurry? Indeed, “impatient” is an interesting word to describe how your husband is feeling about your child’s eating. I am pretty sure he knows that eventually PB&J will lose its appeal ( especially if your 3-ye

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