A mother is facing a difficult situation as her son prepares to marry in a few months. The couple is organizing a small reception that will only include their closest friends and family. This decision has left out the son’s late grandfather’s second wife, Bonnie, who has been part of their lives for nearly 40 years.

The son does not have a strong issue with Bonnie, but her past struggles with mental health have caused some tension within the family. Bonnie has not made an effort to welcome the son’s fiancée, which has influenced his decision to exclude her from the wedding festivities. The mother respects her son’s choice but finds herself in a challenging position.

Although she is not particularly close to Bonnie, the mother has always included her in family gatherings since the death of her father several years ago. She acknowledges that Bonnie is a good person but is easily offended. The mother fears that Bonnie will be hurt when she learns she is not invited to the reception. Currently, Bonnie is aware of the engagement but does not know the wedding date.

The mother is uncertain about how to communicate this news to Bonnie, if at all. In response, advice suggests that the mother should respect her son’s wishes regarding the guest list. It is emphasized that this is the son’s wedding reception, and the mother should refrain from intervening. If Bonnie eventually discovers she was not invited, the mother can explain that the reception was small and that any concerns should be directed to her son.

In a separate letter, another mother shares her experience of being estranged from her children after remarrying following her husband’s death. She expresses her desire to reconnect with her children, who have not accepted her new marriage. Despite living close to them, they have not met her new husband and have even contacted her lawyer regarding her decision to remarry.

The advice given to her includes seeking guidance from a licensed marriage and family therapist before attempting to reach out to her children. It is also recommended that she consult with her legal adviser to ensure her interests are protected. The mother hopes to bridge the gap and introduce her new husband to her children, who she believes do not understand the love and happiness she has found.