DEAR MISS MANNERS: Our neighbors of over 10 years suddenly and surprisingly invited us to their home for dinner. In all those years, we were casually friendly, but shared nothing more than short conversations about the weather or things happening in the neighborhood.

We had a pleasant evening, and the wife had obviously gone to some effort including appetizers, a lovely meal and homemade dessert.

I feel we should reciprocate, but I don’t want to host them for dinner at our place: I’m not a great cook, and I think we exhausted our conversation topics at their house. The husband has mobility issues, so we can’t treat them to a restaurant meal.

I did bring a hostess gift (flowers and wine) when we went to their home. I’m feeling guilty, but can I let it go now?

GENTLE READER: No, you need

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