Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we’re diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!

Dear How to Do It,

I just started a wonderful relationship. We are compatible in so many ways, including sexually. We both like a lot of long, intense sex. She is incredibly multi-orgasmic. I don’t keep track, but I would say 10-20 orgasms during a long session of love-making—on average about 30-60 minutes.

Which is wonderful—except her orgasms are so frequent and so intense that I cannot achieve orgasm myself. In over six months, I have had only two orgasms. Her orgasms are so frequent and physically intense that at most I have only one to two minutes

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