Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married 56 years. For the past year or so, we quarrel about everything — major issues and minor, insignificant things. There is nothing but bickering, disagreement and conflict. We can have a couple of good days and then fight over some small issue, or an innocent response or comment from one of us — and in seconds, we’re arguing.

Several major issues are instant triggers, but there’s also resentment, hurt feelings and awful things we’ve said to each other. I think we still love each other, but I don’t think we like each other very much.

We both feel a mediator is what we need, someone to hear both sides and make a judgment as to whose position is more valid. We have tried to find one — not a therapist or marriage counselor. We’ve done some research

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