My parents treated me like a child even after I moved out. I had to redefine my relationship with them.

• After college, my parents and I continued to relate in the same way we had when I was young. • The mismatch pushed me to change my relationship with my parents. • We became best friends in the process.

Nobody warned me about the awkward phase with parents. For me, it was the period right after college that included landing my first important, non-internship job, taking control of my finances, and eventually moving out. I was a full-fledged adult — by society's standards.

At work, I fit the bill. I was patient, poised, and responsible, always communicating respectfully, pulling my own weight, and holding myself accountable for mistakes. I went above and beyond, taking pride in being a team player. To my colleagues and friends, I was a mature, high-achieving adult.

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