Are You Enmeshed With a Narcissist?

Key points

Enmeshment in a relationship blurs where one person ends and another begins.

With enmeshment, it's the relationship dynamics—and not the people—that are the problem.

When your field of intimacy turns asymmetrical, your choices orbit around the other person’s needs.

If you experience identity gaps and privacy loss while that person's needs dominate, read on for helpful tips.

You’re not the problem. That other person is not the problem. The enmeshment is the problem. Enmeshment in a relationship blurs where one person ends, and another begins. If you add in a partner who has narcissistic dynamics—like status-seeking, a steady pull for admiration, controlling through flattery, gaslighting , or fault-finding—then that blurred boundary between you can feel like an erasin