Remember to give thanks to yourself during the holidays and beyond

NEW YORK (AP) — While reflecting on what we’re thankful for during the holiday season, we often focus on the external: the company of loved ones . The nourishment of a shared meal . The homes in which we gather.

But how often do we turn the lens of gratitude toward ourselves?

It’s fairly uncommon, because people generally are more comfortable expressing gratefulness to others. But psychologists say taking the time to thank ourselves for the qualities that carried us through life can be healthy and important, even if doing it feels awkward or arouses fears of appearing egotistical.

One reason self-gratitude doesn't come naturally: the human brain evolved to look for problems and dwell on the negative when everyday life required an awareness of immediate dangers, said Kristi