DEAR ABBY: My son is hosting a reception for 30 guests at his home for his daughter’s (my granddaughter’s) wedding. It will be a professionally catered sit-down dinner complete with a professional bartender. In your opinion, what is the protocol for tipping a bartender who will be paid handsomely by the company who employs him? The company is charging my son a steep hourly rate.

Some think it is fine for this employee to have a tip jar at the bar. Others say it would be “tacky” to expect family and friends to tip above and beyond what my son is already paying, plus tipping him privately. Please share your wisdom so we can put this unpleasant subject to rest. -- ALREADY PAYING ENOUGH IN NEVADA

DEAR ALREADY PAYING: The reception is a PRIVATE event. The bartender is being compensated (“hand

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