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Dear How to Do It,

My wife and I have been at odds over something since we’ve been together.

She gets especially horny during her period and wants sex. The idea of doing it while she has that going on sickens me. With the exceptions of when she was pregnant, every month it’s been the same thing when that week rolls around: the demands, my refusals, and the accusations that I’m “not a real man.” How can I get through to her that this is off the table for me once and for all?

—Counting the Days Until Menopause

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