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Dear Care and Feeding,

My husband, “Carl,” and his ex-wife, “Lucy,” have been divorced for five years and share a 7-year-old son, “Kyle.” Lucy was recently laid off and hasn’t been successful in finding another job. She is about to be evicted from the house she rents.

Her family can’t help: She and her mother do not get along, to put it mildly, and her brother lives on the other side of the country. She doesn’t want to uproot Kyle and take him away from his school, his friends, and all of his extracurricular activities. Carl does not want a situation where he will only see his son maybe a dozen times a year.

His solution is that he wants to have Lucy and Kyle move in wi

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