Dear Eric: I have several friends with whom I enjoy getting together. Sometimes it’s a day trip, other times it might be lunch or a movie. My concern is that it’s never anything initiated by one of them. Weeks will go by, and if I contact the person, she is always happy to hear from me. If I suggest a meet-up or a day out, she seems delighted and grateful that I thought of her. Yet, the invitation never initiates with her.

Can you explain why this seems to be a pattern with these individuals? I find myself becoming more and more resentful because I seem to be doing all the research and planning and they are just along for the ride. At the end of the day, literally, they always say (and act) like they’ve had a good time.

By the way, if it makes any difference, none of them know each other

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