Dear Annie: I was invited to, and attended, both an engagement party and a bridal shower. I spent a bit of money on gifts for both. I wasn’t invited to the wedding, which hurt me somewhat, but I understood the couple was trying to keep it small.

Now, two years later, I’ve been invited to the baby shower. While I’m happy for this couple, I can’t help but feel like I’m being used as a money/gift grab. On top of that, I never received a thank-you note or acknowledgment for the previous gifts I gave.

Am I being selfish or being taken advantage of? Thanks for hearing me out. -- Feeling Used

Dear Feeling Used: You’re not being selfish; you’re being honest about how you feel. Keeping a guest list small is one thing, but not being thanked for your generosity -- and also being left out on the bi

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