How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here . It’s anonymous!

Dear How to Do It,

I have never had the ability to last long in bed. I don’t know why, but consistent and prolonged stimulation of my dick builds up the urge to come faster than I want. I marvel at reading about dudes who can pound away forever and not blow their load. I spend a lot of time trying to draw it out as long as I can, and just can’t seem to improve. I tend to have to pause to not reach the edge, and that just isn’t great!

My wife of 20+ years was a virgin when we met, and I am her only sexual partner. She says she’s satisfied with our sex life—we have sex two to three times a week typically. But of course, she doesn’t know anything else. Orgasms f

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