Key points

Parenting often reactivates unresolved childhood wounds.

Children may trigger emotions rooted in our own unmet needs.

Letting go of control is one of the hardest but most necessary parts of parenting.

Awareness of our emotional triggers creates space for conscious parenting.

This piece is about the messiness of raising kids while still healing from your own childhood . About the subtle but powerful ways our family patterns get passed down without us even realizing it. It is called intergenerational transmission ( Lochner, 2008)—the idea that emotional habits, trauma , coping mechanisms, and beliefs can be handed down through behavior.

Somewhere in the process of parenting , you begin to see your younger self in your child—and you are forced to face the parts of you

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