DEAR MISS MANNERS: I flew to the home of a friend to help her with a project as a favor. She has two cats, and unfortunately, I discovered that she keeps her two litter boxes positioned in common spaces. One was in the living room, adjacent to the kitchen, and the other was very close to the dining room table.

Both cats were allowed on the dining table and on the kitchen countertops. There was cat litter on the floor near the boxes, and the surfaces in the dining room and kitchen were not clean.

I found this all to be nauseating, to say the least. I tried to address this situation and got nowhere. I was so uncomfortable because of this, and other unwelcoming aspects of the visit, that I left several days early.

I feel badly that I left before the project was completed, but it was a ver

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