Key points

Counter-dependence is the fear of depending on others.

It often develops when your emotional needs were ignored as a child.

Emotional connection can feel unsafe but is essential for healing.

Allowing others in can help you feel stronger, not weaker.

Everyone knows what the word “dependent” means in terms of relying on another for support.

Not many people have heard the term “counter-dependence.” It’s not a term that is in common use. In fact, it’s used mostly by mental health professionals.

Counter-dependence is the extreme opposite of dependence. It refers to the fear of depending on other people. If you are counter-dependent, you will go to great lengths to avoid asking for help. You may have a great fear of feeling, or appearing to feel, in need. In fact, the word “n

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