Miss Manners: Yard mess shows neighborly etiquette has gone out the window

MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I discovered what looked like a batch of pruned vines in my backyard. There is some ivy that grows on the walls shared by several of us in proximity, and it appears the neighbors behind us cut the pieces that were hanging in their yard and tossed them over into ours.

While I am always willing to help our neighbors, I thought it rude of them to toss the mess into our yard. What is wrong with people that they feel they cannot approach their neighbors to ask if we could cut the plants -- or for any favor, for that matter?

By the way, this neighbor also drilled a foot-high eyebolt (to support patio lights) into the shared block wall without mentioning or considering us first. Sadly, this course of ac