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My husband and I have two boys, “Mason,” 4, and “Tyler,” 8. Tyler has recently begun pulling what he thinks is a hilarious prank on Mason. He pulls Mason’s pants down at random (he’s even done this when we are out running errands). Mason is upset by this, and Tyler thinks it’s the funniest thing in the world. Punishing Tyler has had a limited effect, and now he mostly does it when I’m not in the room. I would put Mason in overalls, but he has trouble getting them off right now and has had a couple of accidents. My husband grew up with three brothers and says this is “normal” and that Tyler will outgrow it. I don’t think bullying is normal! How can I

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