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What can couples mismatched in cleanliness do? My partner and I (both women in our 40s) have a great relationship, but this is our major issue. I am organized and tidy but not super into cleaning—I’d vacuum if there was something on the ground, wipe a counter if it’s dirty, but I don’t just mop and dust.

She is extremely messy. Her parents are hoarders, and she’s better than that, but she leaves dirty plates on the table forever, dirty clothes go on the ground for months. She puts trash next to the trash. She shoves rotting food to the back of the fridge. We have roaches and mice. She has ADHD and just doesn’t see mess. I hate cleaning up afte

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