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Dear How to Do It,

Not long ago I was at a work retreat at an expensive hotel when I met the most wonderful guy at the pool. We hit it off so well that we ended up going back to his room for some of the best sex I’ve ever had. Then the next thing I know, he checks his phone, drags me out of bed, shoves my clothes into my hands, and hides me in the closet. Moments later his husband comes in! He managed to get rid of him by asking him to go pick up a box of high-end chocolates from the hotel’s gift shop. Once his husband left, he apologized and said it was fun, but he’s on his honeymoon!

I stormed out. I considered waiting around to rat him out to his husband b

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