Dear Sahaj: While I adore my dad, he has a penchant for grand gestures and surprises, which I do not like. My wedding is approaching soon, and while I think I’ve done some good preemptive work telling him what I don’t want, weddings in my culture are typically grand affairs, and I know I can’t think of everything. Subscribe for unlimited access to The Post Save on unmatched reporting. Get your first year for 99¢

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Is there anything more I should do? It’s not that I’m against being in the spotlight (it’s a wedding, and I could have chosen to elope), but I am against being blindsided and forced to display some kind of expected emotion. I was adamant to my fiancé that I not be proposed to in any sort of crowd for that very reason (which he of course listened to).

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