How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here . It’s anonymous!

Dear How to Do It,

Over the past year, I’ve purposefully lost a lot of weight. I did it mostly for health reasons (I was borderline diabetic, and have now reversed it, which is great), but I would be lying if there wasn’t some aesthetic desired mixed up in all of this as well. I love how I look now—except for one big problem.

I have so much loose skin on my arms and my boobs! My boobs are completely deflated. So I like how I look in clothes but hate how I look naked—and am especially insecure now as I meet men for hookups and flings. I don’t think I need to warn them, but I feel like they must notice. I can’t help but think my body is a huge turnoff once the

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