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Dear Prudence,

My mother gave everything to take care of my sister and her three kids, from taking care of them while my sister went to school to cashing out her 401k to buy them a house. Only now that the money well has dried up, they don’t bother to call or visit, despite living less than an hour away. I had to take my mother in, and it kills me to see her get her hopes up of seeing her grandchildren who can’t even bother to spare a single afternoon to see their grandmother. Worse, my sister sees nothing wrong with it. Her attitude is that her kids are “just busy” and our mother has too high expectations of them. They are all in their mid-twenties.

Last time, all three promised to come by for Sunday dinner, only

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